For negative voltage drop, I put one probe on the alternator body and the other on the battery negative. Little or no voltage was registered, meaning all of the grounds are conducting properly.
I run into this problem in the spring / summer mostly, when its raining and humid. I've got everything on in that case, and when I pull up to a stoplight, electrical system struggles. Sure, once I rev it up, everything is nice and bright. When I am moving, it is never an issue. I have been reading a lot around the web on this, and it sounds like it isn't uncommon on a lot of cars. My other two cars don't react at all when everything is on, they are a little newer though. I've done all the FSM diagnosis I can, and I am not seeing a problem with the system. I've read about the possibility of putting a smaller pulley on the alternator to boost output at idle RPM. Only about 100 rpm seems to make the difference. Maybe I could just adjust the idle up a little bit.