I guess it's not a big deal, anyway. On each of my bumper-mounted shackles I use two thin spacers, one on each side of the shackle bracket, made of PVC tubing. This was just to allow me to tighten the shackle down onto the bracket to keep them from slapping against the bumper. But similar metal spacers could be thrown on the pin in use if I'm still that paranoid. They would then ensure a straight or 'pure' shear pull on the pin.
Maybe another option to address any chance of putting a load on the pin threads is to use a straight D shackle instead of the anchor shackle style.
I like the coupler but I've not used one and I suppose that, at least on some of the better ones, the pin is itself held in with two steel pins, like the pin on the Gunnebo sling hook. This would make quick deployment impossible--my chances of losing a retaining pin are 100%.