Thanks for the info! I just finished up my own wiring for this connector and am glad to read that we did most things similarly.
I stopped by Lordco and Home Depot in hopes of finding a connector, but no dice, no one has even seen these things before.
The 2-pin connector I have is labeled YEONHAB 16-11, and Y/MS3102E 16-11P 1422. I am not sure of the guage of wire that I ended up connecting. These are the original wires that came with my Renology 100W solar panel. I am guessing it is around 8-10. Definitely larger than what the connector's pins are intended for.
First off, I decided to retain the original connector on these cables in order to not cut the cables attached directly to the solar panel, and as such, I made the cut in the long batch of wire (that runs to the solar controller) about 20" below the original connector.
My first attempt was to solder the wire directly to the connector's pins. The tight spacing and my borderline zero soldering experience (haven't touched a soldering gun since high school electronics some ~11 years ago) resulted in a horrible mess. I spent a good 30 minutes with a rotary tool, trimming off everything I had soldered on to that one pin.
I then tried to remove the pins as you did - no dice, I could not get them off. I used needle nose pliers and tried pushing, pulling, wiggling, etc. I ended up doing everything with the pins still attached:
My second idea was to take a butt connector with an inner diameter just slightly larger than the half-round pins, strip off the insulation, and hammer it on to the pin. This worked well, and I then soldered the pieces together. This gave me a taller, tubular pin to work with. Unfortunately this butt connector's inner diameter was still smaller than my wire, so I added another, larger butt connector on top of it - that gave me the room I needed. I tin'ed the wire, inserted it into the larger butt connector (now part of the pin), crimped everything together and soldered. Then came two layers of shrink wrap, and the same process for the other pin. With both pins done, I used liquid tape to completely fill & insulate the area around the pins.
For the other half of the connector I had a third idea: solder on spade terminals. Same approach with insulation as in idea #2. This is the best of the options I used, as it makes it very easy to attach other wires in place of the ones I have now.
Here are a few (admittedly not the greatest) photos: