I was basically in your same shoes recently. You will find that most searches lead to opinions based on brand loyalty, not on the actual truck itself. Here is what I found through research, speculation, and summation :
Dodge/Cummins:
Best engine overall. Simple, Powerful, efficient, exceedingly overbuilt
Auto trannies are the weakest, but do okay with lighter towing and no performance tuning. Manuals are great though. Truck itself is by far the lowest quality. Uncomfortable (imo), cheap, little things break a lot. Stock suspension is pretty horrible. generally priced in the middle. Available in mega cab, which may be an attraction for your needs. (2006/early 07 mega cab still has the 5.9)
Grew up running these on the farm/ranch. Never any serious problems.
Ford/Powerstroke
Good engine, good truck, good trans. Not the best in any area, but good in all.
Seems to be the least reliable, although they are all fairly reliable.
Stick with 7.3, 6.0 introduces many problems (all fixable), with no real benefits.
Probably the cheapest parts. Generally the cheapest.
Lots of experience with these in wildland fire rigs. Never any serious problems.
GM/Duramax
Great engine, although much more complex than the other two. Most powerful/responsive to upgrades, most efficient. Best Auto transmission offered in any truck. By far the most comfortable, and highest build quality of the truck. Much better ride. Most expensive parts. Weaker front end.
Stick with at least the laate 04+ (LLY), as injectors problems are worked out by then. Best years are 06-07.5, the LBZ. Best engine, 6 speed shiftable allison, right before extra emissions. Generally the most expensive.
Haven't had mine long, but there are not many LBZ's with any sort of serious problem, and several on forums with 300-400k + miles of long-haul towing with no problems whatsoever.
Overall thoughts:
For me, the duramax is a bit of a different breed. If I was going for a construction site or ranch workhorse, I would undoubtedly have gone with either Dodge or Ford, due to their simplicity, and solid front axle. However, I was looking for a long-haul towing machine, daily driver, and adventure/hunting/camping/SAR mission rig. I also preferred an automatic transmission. Duramax fit this perfectly, and with a few inexpensive modification to the relatively weak front end, I have confidence.
With any of them, stay away from anything after 2007 ish. Our lovely .gov added so much emissions junk, the engines are forced to breathe dirty, and efficiency is down greatly. (however, if your heart is set on a newer one, there are ways around all of these for the $$)
If you get lucky, as I did, find the newest possible with the older non-emissions engines. Some dealers, expecially those not familiar with diesels, will discount these, as they feel people want the newer style. Little do they know.... mua ha ha ha :coffeedrink:
Keep in mind with any of the diesels, they were not designed for the Ultra Low Sulfur fuel we are graciously provided these days. They need lubricity, and this can be found with fuel additives, or biodiesel.
If I can be of any more help, let me know!