The dB difference, from one measure to the next, using the same device, if using the same weighing scale (dB a vs dB c etc...) should be accurate, but if you compare your absolute numbers with someone else’s using a differrent instrument... they will not necessarily be the same or relevant to each other
Your ears matter, and like you have said, they are telling you what you need to know...
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That type of fatigue is real... and those bose have helped me a lot
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