Good thinking on the remote for the lights, may I ask what remote you are using? The better half has determined (and I agree with her assessment) that it would be very useful if we could operate our big truck's 100,000 watts of stadium lighting from inside our bedroom (cabover bed in slide-in camper), however I'm not really looking forward to running yet another harness between the two units and waiting on her to get it done instead may prove quite a bit like waiting on pigs to take into flight

A remote would make the task much easier...
Also, regarding your "confirmed engine running" solution via oil pressure switch, that is how we've done it in the past as well, in the exact same application too. Works very well. Keep in mind most pressure switches are used in a circuit where they close to ground when they see pressure, so if your current isolator is grounded via its body you may need to look for another one that has an external ground. Or just use the switch to close the trigger circuit on a small relay, you feed said relay key-on power and it only sends it to your existing isolator when the switch sees actual oil pressure. Either way works and gives you double redundancy - the system is only armed when ignition is on, and only activated when engine is running.