I get my set up fixed! This $3.50 part is all you need. It does make a slight delay dropping out of highbeams though, like 1 second. (So I can't do a quick double highbeams flash anymore because the capacitors keep the circuit delayed to shut off.)
Here is how I wired the anti flicker harness. (Again if you search eBay or Amazon these harnesses can be had very cheap I got 2 delivered off eBay for $7.00)
One thing I want to point out is I tried at first to wire this without grounding it and it didn't work. The flicker was still there the harness must be grounded.