Different stroked for folks. I'm running Donahoe Racing/Icon on mine. I like the ride. Some people hate Icon and say they ride like garbage. Most of my driving is daily driving then more fire roads and beaches at higher paces. I don't find it all that bad on trails though either. However, speed bumps rattle my teeth. If I were to do it again I would probably go with the Fox kit Camburg offers. If plans on running bumpers any time soon, I would go with a 700 coil. But A set of DR's came with the truck and I threw on a set of Icons in the rear and added the longer and stronger coils. I feel a 5100, 6112 will settle under additional weight quite a bit. Kings are nice. Pricey. But I've driven trucks with Kings that I liked and then those I thought rode terrible. I like the OME idea, but after talking to a few people it's a pieced together kit from the Tacoma. To me, after having a 2 first gen Tacoma's then my DC Tundra, I was more worried about it holding the weight of such a bigger vehicle with v8, bumper and winch.
Most importantly. Budget in a set of OEM Lower Ball Joints. Unless you are absolutly sure it's been done in the last 50k or so. AND OEM ONLY. Aftermarket as well as higher mileage ball joints are prone to fail. And it's not a good thing.
As far as wheel and tire.... I prefer the 16's on 33's. More room to play when airing down.