You do not need the remote switch for it to work. You do need to ground the ACR no matter if you use the switch or not. I think it's a black wire in the harness. As long as that is grounded the box will operate automatically and can still be manually overridden.
Daily you may or may not hear it click. This depends on your parasitic loads and condition of your batteries. Mine will stay connected for a day or two, sometimes disconnecting after that when I open the door and the overhead light turns on. With the fridge in the truck it will disconnect after an hour or two usually. But I've had it stay paralleled overnight sometimes and other times it will disconnect almost immediately. Just depends on how good I've been about conditioning the batteries, what loads have been running, what engine speeds have been.
You want the manual position to be fully clockwise, then you'll see the button in the middle pull in or push out depending on the state of the relay. It'll be pulled in when the two batteries are connected. If you turn the dial fully anti-clockwise this is the permanently unlatched position, where the two batteries are held isolated. This prevent loads from draining both but it also prevent both from being charged (assuming you have only one source). Neither the automatic function nor the switch can override this, it's a mechanical isolation.
There's no valid position between the two, you want the manual dial either fully right or fully left. But with it's turned clockwise you can push the center button in to latch the relay and connect the two batteries for 10 minutes. After that the automatic function will revert to the voltage levels to decide whether to stay connected or open again. This is what you'd use to self jump or winch. If you've started the truck then presumable the alternator will be running and it will stay latched, for example.
The remote switch doesn't give you any additional operations that you can't get with the dial & button. It just makes it more convenient to do from the cab. I don't have the switch personally and haven't missed it. Having the status LED might be nice but not essential IMO.