Alternate view...
Reading up on the 4th gen ram 2500/3500, I learned that the 4x4 system switched from locking hubs to a system known as CAD (center axle disconnect). I believe the changeover year was 2013. I have a vague understanding of how it works.
First, Dodge hasn't had locking hubs on ANY pickup since 1993. From 1994 till 2002, ALL dodge trucks used CAD.
From 2003 to 2012, the 2500/3500 trucks didn't use any disconnect at all, meaning the entire front driveline was always spinning, even in 2wd.
It appears that they brought CAD back on the 2500/3500's for 2013+. I'm sure this was to gain a bit of mileage, if only a few tenths.
In my experience, there's nothing wrong with the CAD systems that Dodge is currently using. Sure, back in the early 90's, the CAD actuation systems were less than reliable as trucks got older, but newer systems are holding up fine even after hundreds of thousands of miles. I have 240k miles on my 06 GMC that uses the same style electric actuator (If not the SAME actuator) as the new Ram trucks, and it gets shifted a lot more than most. It's original, and still working perfectly.
I will admit that there is ONE way to have issues with any CAD or even Ford's auto hubs for that matter... If you wait to engage 4wd until you are stuck, the splines may only partially engage when you try to drive away the first time. If you find yourself stuck in 2wd, and needing 4wd to continue, pull the lever or push the button, then gently apply some throttle in drive, then in reverse, then back to drive. This allows the CAD to fully seat the splines on the slip collar, or the hubs to fully engage, and you can hammer on it to your heart's content. My personal suggestion is that you shift to 4wd as soon as you even think it might be needed. This ensures full engagement of the front axle by the time you really need it. (This was not a concern on the trucks with no CAD, or on Fords driven with the hubs locked all the time.)
With CAD vs traditional locking hubs, your axle shafts are still spinning, but the differential and driveshaft are not. The differential spider and side gear also spin, but there's no load on any of the spinning parts, so it would take millions of miles to actually get any appreciable wear. In my experience, it keeps the u-joints better lubricated. Seals may eventually wear out, but they went out on my old trucks with hubs much sooner, so I believe having them always spinning seems to work better than having the whole front end sit still for the better part of a year.
My opinion is that you have nothing to worry about. Just try to be a little preemptive with your engagement of 4wd, and wave at Buliwyf when you drive by while he's out in the snow locking his hubs, only to find out that one is frozen, or his u-joints have rusted up over the summer...
