I doubt your fluke is off unless it was damaged in someway.
A group 35 is a 60ah battery - so figure on 30ah useable for Max life. Most Dometics pull 0.5-1ah on a nominal day with minimal open/close. The later the fridge, the greater the draw. I've modded mine a bit, so usually see 0.5ah on my CFX65 DZ
Since you'll be going in/out of your fridge and may be warmer thabln their guidelines (pushing 1.5 ah or more if you're really pushing it), I wouldn't try to push more than 24 hours out of your battery.
18ft on the ARB kit - what guage? If #12, that wire is too small. Are you also using the Dometic wire too (I think it's #14) ? That wire is pretty small and should be kept short.
Normally, 18' of #10 should be fine for a fridge assuming you have one ATC and one Maxi fuse between you and the battery have solid crimped, and a decent disconnects/plugs. NO cig lighter style. Don't forget, that you need to double it - so you will have 36' of wire.
If your batteries are fresh/good, the issue is most likely a poor connection. Find a local ground to the fridge and cut/tie it there...this will reduce the overall loses.
12.46 on a freshly charged battery is likely due to another load. Having a key in the ignition, the emissions, radio, pcm, fuel injection systems, etc often will consume current for several minutes after the vehicle is off - all of these may continue to draw current.
A battery can take up to 24hrs to get to a resting voltage...or about 1 min with your headlights on. This will bleed off the surface charge from 13.x down to about 12.7 or 12.8V.
To trouble shoot voltage drop,measure the voltage from the pos battery terminal to the pos fridge terminal while it is running....that will tell you the total series voltage loss for half the circuit. The other half will be the ground return. If you meaure 0.65V on the pos, your total loss will be about 1.3V.
The other issue is your alternator. I think I read you have a AGM - you need 14.5 to 14.7 to properly charge that battery. (It can be as high as 15V or more when cold). If your alternator can produce 14.2V or so, you'll be fine as long as you put an aux charger on that battery from time to time.