The NL kit is one of the best and easiest to install set-ups in the industry, with all the versatility one could ever want. Yes it is expensive ~$375 (Equipt1.com) but worth it considering you don't need anything else. No driving around town looking for parts, no phoning, etc. You can boost your start (hard winters) with a parallel start, monitor both batteries, etc.
Yes, it is not good to put a winch on aux battery, as it draws near or more than 100 amps. The main battery always get a larger charge (first charge) than the aux to get it back up to par for starting, hence the winch will draw on it and the alternator will keep up with it. Also, do not put the winch on the side posts (if your battery has them like an Optima Red top) as then can not handle the 100 plus amps. And yes the negative should be to the negative of the battery not the frame/chassis.
Another thing that is good for all batteries (AGMs, etc) that are rechargeable from the bottom up (read NOT the factory starting battery), it is a good idea to discharge (leave head lamps on over night) them routinely. Then recharge with a normal charger to about 6 volts and then use a smart charger (trickle) to get them back to the 12.5-13.5 volts (as per Optima/Interstate instructions). Like all rechargeable batteries, they will forget (
hysteresis) the portion of the battery that is not used over and over again. Optima either does it at the factory or recommends complete discharging of a new AGM batteries before use. Extends life for up to +50%. Additionally, when an item is not used continuously, like a camera or net book PC, which is used with a rechargeable battery, it is better to remove the battery, fully discharge it and store it like that until just before use. I do this with my camera, PC batteries all the time and now get much better life out of them.
Hope this helps some of you.:costumed-smiley-007