Some Comments on Voltage Sensing, Intelligent Relays
A voltage sensing relay really has two different decisions to make: Close (combine) or Open (Separate). Depends on where you start.
With two lead acid batteries with a resting voltage, the formula is pretty well known. You combine when either battery is over X voltage, typically 13.2v. As most lead acid batteries rest at under 13v, this pretty much requires that there be a real charge source connected. (We will ignore time delays, etc.) So start your engine in the morning and the voltage of your starter battery will drop as it cranks and then rebound as the alternator starts charging. Turn off the engine and the batteries will NOT separate, they are not supposed to.They will not separate until the resting voltage drops to the separate voltage, typically 12.7v. Why 12.7v? Because that is the nominal full charge voltage of a 12v battery. (Some Australian relays drop this to 12.5v, to allow a reserve for winching.) How fast will your battery voltage drop? Depends on your loads. Imagine you have refrigerator running and it will drop faster. Turn off all of your loads and it will take many hours. Add in solar, attached to camper battery and the relay may not open for weeks. And that is the issue, once the relay is closed it senses from both sides. Why? Because, as dwh never tires of reminding us, it is a circuit. So "dual sensing" is only an issue when the relay is open, not when it is closed.
So now we have the challenge of a lithium battery of some sort. These are usually assembled of cells that add up to a resting voltage of about 13.2-13.4v. As they say in West Africa, "What to do?"
In my research, NOT supported by personal tests, the answer varies.
-- Many manufacturers tell you to ignore the problem. Trick is that I suspect that most assume a key controlled relay which tends to make the issue moot.
-- Others, like Victron, sell an intelligent relay with higher combine and separate voltages. You can do the same thing yourself by using a Magnum Smart Battery combiner. This beast will pass 25A or switch a relay. It lets you adjust the combine/separate/maximum voltages. I have been using one for years. In my case, the only draw back is that the maximum voltage is 15v, so my batteries may separate when the weather is really cold and the voltage regulator calls for voltages over 15v. I have a manual override switch.
-- Solar may also make the issue moot, that is, with a solar charger connected, your de facto float voltage is going to be 13.6v or higher, so the relay will be closed most of the time. (This is my experience.) A fully charged starter battery will be only a tiny drain; so small that you can ignore it.
There are BMS and there are BMS. Indeed, this may be the real difference between different lithium batteries. Most that I am familiar with only have brick wall cut offs at the top and bottom, that is high or low voltages. At least one, however, sells products to get between the alternator and the regulator to adjust as needed.
The BIG issue, and one where I get conflicting answers, is whether a lithium battery connected to a lead acid battery will tend to equalize the way lead acid batteries do. Some lithium vendors tell me that they will not. Indeed, they say, that is the big reason for the cell balancing circuitry in a lithium cell - the cells will not auto balance the way lead acid batteries do. Here, again, I have NO real world data.
All of the above offered for your consideration. I, too, would love to hear from those who are actually running different setups.