This is the question I heard most about rooftents, "won't the weight up there crush the roof?"
The short answer is that the weight isn't really on your "roof" but on the support structure. Ideally, it is on the vehicle's rollcage, so the roof isn't the concern.
The real concern should be about the vehicle's stability down the road. Here in the US the maximum is 165 pound above the roof, but internationally the standard is 225 pounds. US has more liability concern. The reality is that even though your vehicle can handle it, best to keep the weight down. For example, I talked with a Land Rover engineer about their standards. His reply is that even though you can and people do load a huge amounts on the roof, he recommends a maximum of 145, because above that weight you will "feel" it. Under that and you don't notice it. That is the key, you want the rooftent to just add to your enjoyment, not detract in any way.
I got a chance to see how intensive vehicle engineering is when I was working with Hummer to get AutoHome's tents certified with them as an approved accessory. They tested everything from the tent's flamibility to how it handles collisions. They performed two "sled" tests with the largest Maggiolinas to simulate 45 mile an hour collisions. They of course passed but shows how cautious the manufacturers are when they give any ratings. So, if we take the Hummer H1 for example, the dynamic rating for roof loading (while you are driving) is 2000 pounds for military applications, 300 pounds for civilian application but still your roofbars are rated at 165 pounds maximum. Even if you add two additional bars to spread the load, in theory it doubles the capacity, no, the 165 pound rating still applies and this is with the big Hummer.
So, the quick answer, load heavy things down low, light things up high, never load more than 165 pounds on your roof when driving. Your vehicle will handle better with less weight up there too.
When parked, the roofbars are normally sitting on your vehicles rollcage structure so no worries there.
Each vehicle is different so it is best to chat with their experts as well as the roofbar manufacturers. I have found with both Thule and Yakima, it is easy to get ahold of their engineers to get your questions answered.
Hope this helps, it is a thorny question.
Rich