I think Dodge offered a manual T-case in all those generations, and they still do. If you really want a manual t-case, I HIGHLY recommend you find a truck WITH the manual case, rather than trying to convert.
Converting to lockouts will cost you, and doesn't really save anything. Letting the u-joints and axle shafts spin with no load is what keeps the joints lasting longer IMO, as it keeps the grease/oil spread out and everything turning freely. You MIGHT gain as much as .1 (1/10) mpg with lockouts installed, but I doubt it. No payback on that. Ever.
The ABS/Traction Control/Stability Control in the 2011+ Dodge/Ram trucks (And Ford F250/350) was done by TRW, while I was there. It's based on the 2011+ GM system, which is pretty awesome. (The 2009-10 GM TC/Stability could be a bit restrictive...)
The Ram engineers relaxed some of the control requirements a bit to make the system work better for "truck guys". Traction Control adds more slip when you add more throttle, which is nice. Stability is less intrusive for mild "hooning", but WILL save your *** if you ask it for help by steering in a corrective manner. It won't whack you for no reason like some of the earlier systems would. And ABS adds a bunch of slip, and raises the lockup speed in low range, so it works much better offroad.
Traction control is never going to work in mud or deep snow, but that's why it has an OFF button, and on 2011+ domestic trucks, that button does turn it OFF. If you want to slide around too, holding the off button for a few seconds instead of just pushing it turns TC and Stability completely off, and you can waste tires, roll the truck, do whatever you want.
Honestly, in the early years, these systems were very intrusive and heavy handed with pulling torque, but the 2011+ GM, Dodge, and Ford systems (All TRW, all done while I was still there) are really great systems. If you've been driving a Toyota or Nissan, or earlier GM, and come to hate it, give the later systems a chance.
As an added bonus, I believe Ram's 2011+ stability control includes trailer sway control, (I know it does after 2013, at least.) which can detect that an improperly loaded (tongue too light) trailer is starting to take the truck for a ride, and actually manage to catch it and control it before you end up backwards and upside down in the ditch, with trailer impressions on both sides of your truck. It will save a situation that the driver has little chance to recover from. (Contrary to some of the info out there, it does nothing to control mild wind sway, or the driver swerving, it's really there as a safety measure for a trailer that's wagging because it's improperly loaded.)
My $2. (I spent 7 years of my life tuning, developing, and improving Traction Control at TRW, so my thoughts are hopefully worth a little more than usual on this subject...)
Good luck finding a truck you like!!