Allof75 is about spot on here. Monteros are a good one. A hidden gem is the Isuzu Trooper. Roomy, reliable, and capable. Pretty good aftermarket too. I would definitely suggest a WD21 as well. You could get a 1st gen 4Runner, but then you'd be a Toyota snob and that's unacceptable

just kidding. Another option is a Disco 1, but you need to be willing to work on it quite a bit to enjoy that one.
As far as pickups go, a D21 Hardbody or D22 Frontier is a fantastic choice. If you can get hold of a crew cab, it would be a great choice.
I still think a Forester is a great choice. And here's why:
Mom car? I don't see one.
With a little work they're pretty sick. And it never ceases to amaze me what they are truly capable of. They will go a lot of the places my Frontier will go. And they're more or less bulletproof. I routinely see them for sale with nearly 300k on the clock. I've driven a few like that, and they were still as strong and smooth as the day they rolled out of the factory. Maintenance is pretty cheap, as well as upgrades like lifts, etc. Bumpers would have to be made, but that's about it.
But, as mortonm said, it's your money, so it comes down to you in the end. As long as you're happy, that's what matters. Don't let anyone tell you different. I'm just throwing out what I think would work for you.