Hey man... I've got nearly the exact setup you do and went through this same question last year. Wife and I did about 90 nights last summer in the Ursa Minor... We stopped off at my folks' house mid-trip to upgrade the suspension because it just felt squishy with all the weight on the stock suspension.
So I'm rolling with the J30 (#221), Trekboxx alpha storage system, ARB fridge, AEV rear tire carrier, 35"s, 7 gallons of water, food, more food, firewood int eh trasharoo, plus always have our laptops, camera gear, 4 tripods, lights, etc. We do YouTube stuff on the road.
I went with the AEV 2.5" kit and added their 1" spacer on the rear and Bilstein shocks. Drives like a DREAM!
Now a year later, about 12,000 miles and 40 nights or so in the J30 since the upgrade, I'm super glad I went with this setup!
Canyon roads all loaded up are super stable and fun again... Just bombed through Missoula on the way to Spokane and the windy ass section of 90 following the Clark Fork river with 80mph speed limits was fun as can be. We were loaded up this trip, too. Lol...
Empty, no fridge, no gear, just the Trekboxx and J30, it feels great and has a tiny bit of a raked look that I personally like.
Does great off road and rock crawling, too... Broken Arrow loop in Sedona is one I hit often... Handles it like a champ.