1. Tent: Basic Coleman 4 person 2 pole tent. Biggest gripes: 3 season tent, no vestibule, and limited room for standing up. In my imagination I'd have like an REI base camp 4 or 6 (we're 2 adults, one kid and possibly one dog), maybe with a couple of lightweight cots inside but I also have limited room in my small SUV.
Here's what we do for our adventure camping http://tlcfaq.com/main/2012/06/camping-gear-organization/
One major change... air mattress out. Exped Mega Mats IN!!!
We go big.