I haven't read every post in your build thread, just stumbled on your cooling issues. I can tell you this from multiple vehicles, when something in the cooling system fails, REPLACE IT ALL. You will be ahead time, money AND reliability if you do so. Sounds like you have replaced some parts. So, here is a list. Whatever on this list, REPLACE. If it has already been replaced within the past year and 15k miles (except the radiator, it can go 3 years and 30k miles) then you can keep it:
-ALL rubber hoses (fire wall heater core hoses optional, if they are in good shape, keep up. Primarily, upper and lower radiator hoses and all block/pump hoses.)
-Fan clutch
-Water Pump
-Thermostat. USE A GENUINE TD5 LAND ROVER THERMOSTAT. If you are having temp control problems start here. Some have had mixed results with Motorad/3rd party T-Stats. You are beyond experimenting now, get the Land Rover Part.
-Radiator
-Radiator Cap
-Expansion Tank
-Water Pump
-Idler and tension pullys (while you are in there)
-Serpentine belt
-Coolant temperature (optional)
-Throttle body spacer kit/gasket (optional)
Cooling system overhaul can be done once every 100k miles or so, during a lazy saturday. It costs a bit, but I've been much happier with my vehicles that I've bought the bullet on this service.
Like others, my D2 is typically at 188F on the highway, 190-194 on the trail (or in the winter, I dunno why it runs hotter in the winter but it does, must be the electric AC fan), and I've seen above 200 in 4-low in triple digit heat of the Utah summers, but once I get away from crawling it drops back down. If you are 215+, especially in the 220s, you are going to blow a head gasket and like many your disco dream will either die or become extremely expensive.