I actually like that Toyota has such a huge line-up of SUV's. They have made something for everyone. My wife drives a 2nd gen Rav4 and I have to admit that I really like that little truck, err. It might be based on a corolla, but it can haul a lot of stuff with the rear seats removed, it carries our kayaks, and changing the oil in it is easier than in any other car. Nothing wrong with a car that you can sit up in.
I really like that FJ/Runner. I too hope that Toyota stops making their everything bigger. I like the size of my 3rd gen Runner, and will probably look for a 4th gen when this one goes (unless I can find a good 2002 or 2004 4-door Tacoma), but I wouldn't want anything bigger than that.
For kicks I "built my own" '09 4Runner the other day and the only option for engine was the V6.