I haven't read the whole thread OP, to be honest a lot of this means nothing to me out in the rear world. I to have the same exact ideas as you when it comes to being out camping. I just want stuff to work, and be simple.
With that said, I have installed Several different setups, but my favorite and most simplistic setup is, the Blue Seas ML-ACR 7622 or 7623(one has a remote, one doesn't)...
This is the most basic and effective Battery Isolator that i have come across. I personally run this and love it. I have an Optima red top (starter) and a Yellow top as a house battery.
I run an Arb fridge wired off a Blue seas, circuit breaker, strait to the fridge, Off the house battery i also run my Switch Pros panel.
I used to have a blue seas fuse panel with all the necessary wiring, but the Switchpro is very clean and simple.
(things i like about the switch pro: you can use your smart phone to turn things off and on, also you can set switches to run even with car off)
One thing not to forget is, alot of this stuff can be complete overkill. I can park for a couple days without starting, and have more then enough juice. When building trucks for customers, i try to talk them into simplistic setups. I have built over kill, and simple. But I can tell you that from reading your post a setup like i have, even if you dont do the Switch Pro, and something like a Blue seas panel with a couple relays for bigger lights, im pretty sure you will be plenty happy with an Isolator such as the ML-ACR.
Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.