The regulator that came with my Propex is adjustable and the adjustment process was in the book that came with it. I ordered my furnace kit through a Vanagon shop in Oregon, I believe they were out of La Pine but it's been a while.
The muffler isn't an official Propex part, it's a scooter muffler. Van Cafe has put together a kit but it's also pretty easy to DIY:
https://vancafe.com/propex-stealth-kit-for-hs2000/
I've never felt that the exhaust sound was all that loud with my trailer. I certainly can't hear it over the sound of the air coming out of the vents when the furnace is running. I camped with friends who slept in a tent about 20' from my trailer and in a direct line from the exhaust and they told me that they didn't notice it running. They may have been polite or they may have been exhausted from camping with two energetic kids. I also don't usually run it for long when we're not in the trailer. I'll fire it up for a few minutes when we stop for the night, just to make sure that we're not going to have any issues, then I'll bump up the thermostat about 20 minutes before we start winding down for the night to warm the space up.
For the vent noise I mentioned above, I found that the acoustical ducting does make a difference, though my duct run is pretty short and I think there would be more improvement over a longer run and having more outlet vents. I only have one inlet and one outlet right now but I think that two outlet vents would slow the airflow down and reduce the noise.