I’m not criticizing anyone, but I do find some humor with the unasked for advice about how long (and thus unreasonable) the OP’s commute is. But to each his own…
Years ago, for 4 years I had to commute 79 miles each way between two home bases and two jobs. I was lucky the drive was on a scenic two lane back road (but that was challenging in winter as it wasn’t always the first one plowed).
A good playlist (cassette tapes), a full thermos of coffee and a healthy bladder and having the time to meditate about life, family and the upcoming day’s demands of work made the drive enjoyable. Returning home in the dark on icy roads and dodging deer, perhaps less so.
But it was a period in my life where this scenario simply made sense and I never complained or felt unduly burdened. A few years later, new state, new job, and another long daily commute of many back roads miles (more if the job’s requirements pushed me to other nearby small communities), often in bad winter weather.
And once again I learned to appreciate the many gifts the drive gave me (pastel, multi colored ice stalactites 40’ long hanging from the wintery rocky roadside cliffs, explosions of wildflowers roadside in spring and summer, eagles and ospreys lazily soaring above the river I followed as they searched for fish).
I would not have traded either of those beautiful worlds God and nature provided me for a higher paying job in a big city, fighting with constipated rush hour traffic twice a day, even though admittedly we were struggling a bit financially.
To each his own…and I honor this OP for the choice he voluntarily and eyes wide open is making for himself and his family and his attempt to problem solve with our help.