I'll chime in with what I have experienced:
I am in the moderately overweight category, though certainly not in the 1,300 lb. dry category (that's too much IMO).
I went all out with my suspension. Fronts are Radflo 2.5" extended travel shocks with compression adjustment on the reservoir, custom valved for my weight and driving style. Springs were also chosen based on overall weight. Aftermarket bump stops and all of the other various front end modifications were done as well.
For the rears I went with custom Alcan leaf packs, manufactured for a 2" lift and 1,300 lb. capacity, again with my driving style in mind. These are progressive leafs, and I am 100% convinced these are the only way to go if you leave your camper on your truck permanently, as I do. They ride like a dream.
I cut things off of my frame at the rear and welded on AG relocated rear shock towers, and installed massive 12" 2.5" Radflo extended length rear shocks, again with compression adjustment on the reservoir, custom valved and tested for my exact truck.
Archive Garage hammer hangers with shackles and the cross brace as well. More aftermarket bumps, limit straps, etc.
Gears, armor, blah blah. All those things.
The truck drives like a dream. Sounds unlikely, but I can sometimes forget that it is even back there. The suspension does that good of a job.
These things cover the offroad portion mainly. Truck is no slouch, and goes where I tell it.
As far as brakes, I am on stock stuff. I have no braking issues. Remember, the interaction between your brake pads and rotors is not the limiting factor in your brakes performance. The interaction between the tire and ground is. And your ultimate stopping force is predicated on the normal force experienced between your tire and the ground, as the friction (experienced as a shear force between tire and road) is a function of that normal force (i.e. the harder you push down, the larger that shear force before slippage, the harder you can brake). Now, your pedal feel will change, especially if you need to brake aggressively, but I suggest doing what I did and practicing/experimenting a bit in a large, empty parking lot, to get used to the feel. You have to push considerably harder than you may realize.
If you are encountering a long, steep descent, use engine braking and stab off speed with your brakes when required. Do not ride your brakes the entirety of the descent, this is poor/improper driving practices, overloaded or not.
I, like many of you, am heavy. I modified my driving habits first and foremost. Extra space between other drivers on the road. Stick to those posted speeds (or even slower if no one is around) on sweeping corners. Drive slower overall (I stick with the speed limit as my max in town, and I stick with 67 mph as my max on freeways).
A slightly overloaded truck is quickly matched or outpaced by an empty Tacoma going just a handful of MPH faster.
Reducing speed, along with some of the benefits of the modified underside, cover the on road portion of driving.
For a truck as heavy as you are considering, you need Option 3, which is a lot closer to what I posted, if not even better. I would also look at frame reinforcements as well. The couple driving an Access cab Tacoma around the world had failure of their front bed mounts, causing their FWC to get dangerously close, or even touch, the top of their cab. The FWC has such an overhang over the cab that it really stresses those mounts. I resolved this issue with the relocated rear shock towers I mentioned, as the top of them tie into the bed itself, at the top of the wheel well, which does wonders for spreading the load from the camper back into the frame.
JD Fab makes bolt-in frame reinforcements for the back half of our trucks, which is now on my short list. With an FWC that is that heavy I would definitely get those as well.
Oh yeah; even with all of this there are still roads that are just nasty to ride on at almost any speed. Remember, if you want a smooth feel you need to reach a speed where your suspension just works itself, while your trucks COM stays 'flat'. When you go too slow your suspension has the ability to push the truck up, which makes it feel bumpy. You want the suspension to cycle itself up and down, while the truck stays flat. That's a 'smooth' ride.
There is an upper limit to the speed though, obviously. Even trucks with full LT in the front, 35's and 37's, with SUA in the rear, triple bypasses, etc. feel terrible on certain roads due to corrugations or whatever. It's an unfortunate reality.