bkg
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It's a truck so hauling stuff isn't that weird. And the computer adjusts the behavior of the transmission. If it can't figure out how to shift properly with a load, then that would be a pretty big fail for the engineers.
Tow/haul also increases engine throttle movement relative to pedal movement.
OP doesn't have Tow/Haul mode... No first gen Tundra or Sequoia did.
And engineers have to engineer to the average - the most likely - the mean. Just is what it is.