Bad Parenting

[SilverBullet]

Bad parenting? Hows about the "Dad" that got outta jail, looked up his "old lady".. who had a two month old baby boy... his baby boy. "Dad" finds out his woman was cheating on him while he was in the slammer. This "Dad" takes out his anger on two month old son by repeatedly punching him, choking him, slamming him into wall while holding the ankles, crushing his chest, breaking his pelvis, punchturing both lungs, and blinding him, among other things. Then... buries him in the back yard while wrapped in a plastic bag. (Thinking he's dead). THEN.. see's him move in the bag while covering him with dirt, digging him back up, second guesses himself< tries to clean him up with baby wipes, then calls 911. When paramedics arrive, "Dad" is smoking a cigg, calmly giving his BS statement to the cops that he "Fell out of his crib". Paramedics (myself included) rushed child to ER, kept him alive long enough for the docs to take over.

(still think EMS is a glamorous job anyone)?

I was an EMT for only 2 weeks due to crap like this in CA. I had a little of everything, including supervising a birth on site. My final blow was a woman beaten by her husband to the point I was administering CPR. She died under my supervision, and that was enough. After the PTSS counseling, I quit the job. I could not handle it. You have my respect.

 

[R_Lefebvre]

Damn man, that's brutal.

A guy I know who's a cop had something sorta like that. He was first on scene for a call of gunshots fired in a residential area. He arrives, and finds a woman lying on the curb beside a car, parked in front of a house. She's sorta half under the car half on the curb. Gunshot wound to the head. She's still alive, but barely. There's not much he can do, so he's just holding her waiting for the ambulance to arrive. She took her last breath in his arms.

There was a 6 year old girl in the car.

Turns out, the woman had seperated from her husband. Both Islamic. She was going to remarry another man, not of the right sect or something, I dunno. Anyway, the ex-husband and her father waited for her to come home one day for an honor killing.

Wow, this thread could derail pretty quick now.

 

[Fireman78]

Didn't mean to derail the thread.. sorry . Major inner struggle in my head right now with things. Not to many places to vent.

 

[kjp1969]

Didn't mean to derail the thread.. sorry . Major inner struggle in my head right now with things. Not to many places to vent.

You've gotta find some place to talk that out. Not sure what the situation is in New Mex, but your work has to have some kind of support, right?

 

[Nonimouse]

I took my eldest and split from my first wife becuase she beat her up and then tried to throw her down the stairs. 6 months old... Broken bones, damage to her kidneys...

She's now a bright, intelligent, loving eleven year old (going on 15) with so much love in her it makes me tear up. She's sitting on the sofa with her three year old half sister now, reading stories to her. No maater how tired she is or how tough a day she will always make time for her little sister. At school she is the one who the little kids always come to. I'm so proud of her I could burst and she came out okay.

Fireman 78, I could say so many things that would mean so little, so have a big manly hug instead.

 

[wanderer-rrorc]

Fireman 78, I could say so many things that would mean so little, so have a big manly hug instead.

Hugs from a fellow EX-EMT...the company I worked for (rural-metro) was so horrible..and the things I saw were awful...I quit..

I still remember a pickup at a childrens facility...(its been 15 YEARS since this happend)...his name was Cory Cox...he was loved by everyone there..and his parents too...but God decided he wanted him in heaven (all kids goto heaven..even the bad ones get there and get the love they missed on earth)...

if I had been the responding squad...I would probably have ended up in jail..and dad would have had to ride in my squad too...some people have special places in hell awaiting them...

(NOTE...I am NOT religious...heck im not even christian..but even some pagans beleive that children will goto heaven..at least we hope so!!)



alright....back to BAD parenting...

you should see some of the goofballs that get enrolled in COLLEGE!!...how do they get along in life without a full-time aid?..cant do laundry? cant cook? no idea how to do anything but play video games and text on the phone!:drool:

 

[96discoXD]

Anyone that beats a child like that should get a round to the back of the head, no trial, no nothing. Makes me sick.

 

[R_Lefebvre]

You've gotta find some place to talk that out. Not sure what the situation is in New Mex, but your work has to have some kind of support, right?

Yeah, if you need to talk, talk. To us, to anyone.

 

[The Adam Blaster]

Alright, back to bad parenting...

A couple of days ago my wife and I were driving with our son and saw a nice park off to one side and thought it would be nice to stop and let the boy run around, play etc.
It was starting to rain, and we had seen a decent amount of lightning strikes not too far off for about the past 15-20 minutes.

Apparently that didn't deter the father and his ~ 8 year old son from flying 2 kites at the time... :shaking head:

 

[AmericaOverland]

Bad parenting? Hows about the "Dad" that got outta jail, looked up his "old lady".. who had a two month old baby boy...

Umm, oh man... This makes me sick... I cannot imagine being this child at the mercy of a full-grown man trying to kill him. Immediately, my reaction was, "This man does not have a right to be alive. In fact, his spirit should be reabsorbed into the great spirit so that he could not continue to exist in his malevolent form and cause further harm to anyone else..."

But then again, to kill this man would be his easy way out once he got past the physical death, then (I think) he would be scot-free to come back in another body without any way of knowing what he might have done previously, to do it all over again without anyone having any warning.

I hope I never have to be witness to any of this...

Stephanie

 

[Nullifier]

Well running a canoe shop I see lots of bad outdoor parenting. The biggest issue I see regularly is the parents teasing the kids about how the alligators will get them. Then when they get to the river bank ,the kids throw a fit because they are scared. Next thing you know the parents are yelling at the kids and getting mad because the kid is "embarassing them".

I usualy step in and take an educational moment with the parents and kids. I will never understand driving fear of the unknown into the heart of a child. It is critical to know that what is a joke amongst adults is usually a nightmare for children.

 

[Mamontof]

Well running a canoe shop I see lots of bad outdoor parenting. The biggest issue I see regularly is the parents teasing the kids about how the alligators will get them.

In Bad psychology that control in short time by Fear , whiz huge/massive side effect in the near future (fear to water ,small boat , animal you name...)

Then when they get to the river bank ,the kids throw a fit because they are scared.

They controlled by Fear factor as result we observe a slow motion and fear to any type of action

Next thing you know the parents are yelling at the kids and getting mad because the kid is "embarassing them".

And that hay ruin Family relationship between idiotic parents and neurotic child

I usualy step in and take an educational moment with the parents and kids. I will never understand driving fear of the unknown into the heart of a child. It is critical to know that what is a joke amongst adults is usually a nightmare for children.

And that work ,or you simple understand hay bad future side effect of parenting action could be ??? And you try to be a good Samaritan,as provide Right manipulate psychology to that "parents" why think kids it a toy .

 

[Nullifier]

And that work ,or you simple understand hay bad future side effect of parenting action could be ??? And you try to be a good Samaritan,as provide Right manipulate psychology to that "parents" why think kids it a toy .

Sorry you lost me somewhere.

 

[DirtyDog]

Here's a minor example from Bodie this summer

 

[gloriavoxdei]

My brother-in-law is a firefighter and a great parent. Well, a year ago when they were living in TN (yeah I know) they were out eating and a Deputy from the local Sheriff's Office sat down with his wife for a dinner break on duty. My brother-in-law was talking with him a bit when my niece started acting up, my brotehr-in-law looks at his daughter and says "you better be good or the officer is going to take you to jail". He said that the Deputy's deminor completely changed. Then the Deputy told him in a professional manor that when you tell a child that the police are going to take them to jail then they develop a fear of the police and some day when they might have a real need the are afraid to talk to the police because they might go to jail. My brother-in-law felt aweful about it, but that didn't stop me for riling him about it too then next time I saw him since I'm a Deputy Sheriff too and we love to poke fun at him. In seriousness I see way too much of this, I always walk up to the kids and kneel down to their level and say "I'm not going to take you to jail, I'm here to help people so if you are ever in trouble and need help just look for someone in a uniform just like me and we will help you." I then have a little discussion with the parents simmilar to the one my brother-in-law had.