Hey Dan, the style of connector you'll want to search for is "Panel Mount" (the generally-used-in-North-America industry term for connectors that mount flush to a surface).
That said, I tend to think of XT30/XT60 as a "bullet" or in-line connection. There are definitely some that are sold that can be screwed to a panel, but they aren't generally as ease-of-installation friendly as other connector types. (Particularly because they usually require rectangular holes in the panels.)
Another bummer is that most of the XT30 connectors I see are solder-cup, rather than crimp-on, spade, or screw-on connectors, so putting in a female XT30 at the end of a long run of cable sort of requires "bench assembly" first. ?
Anderson/PP connectors are panel-mount friendly, but as you say, possibly overkill. The upside there is that's becoming a quasi-standard interface for some battery boxes and other low-voltage DC systems, so at least you aren't re-inventing the wheel. I like that they can be crimped in situ and the terminals can be removed/replaced in the housing if you need to make repairs or reconfigure the connector shape/orientation. The small terminals (25A and below) can generally be crimped with normal crimpers, but the 35A and up units require special crimping dies to get the right shape.
SAE, as you've seen, can be had in panel-mount form. Since they're an over-molded connector, you can get panel-mount pigtails (and make your own connections near the panel, but you can't join a long cable directly to the panel assembly.
The other option is MOLEX style connectors. These are not generally consumer oriented, but then again, they're not consumer-grade either - Waterproof and Mil-Spec vibration rating can be had if needed. Like Anderson, they can be crimped directly in situ and the connector packs are rebuildable. Panel mounts are available and some are even locking. The downside for these will be cost, size (they're physically on the bigger side), and to do it right requires a couple of specialized pin insertion/removal tools and sometimes special crimpers, depending on wire gauge and connector type.
Hope that's moderately helpful.