Hey neighbor, I just stumbled on your thread. I live right down the road in New Kent county.
You made a really logical and well thought out argument for both the tradesman package, and a regular cab truck. I have a regular cab short bed truck that I use for dump runs and camping trips right now, but with a family of three it's already a tight squeeze. Usually I'm by myself in the truck, and there's not much extra room for "stuff".
I love the look of your truck though! I'm glad to hear you had a good experience with the dealer. I'm a ford guy myself, but hoping I can have a good experience when I go to buy my truck this coming year. I'll be looking at the crew cab/short bed combo that you mentioned, just for kid space and interior room for activities.
Anyways, I'll be following along on your build, keep up the good work.