I am/was an automotive engineer, and so have some insight into how these specifications are developed. Typically, target specs are developed by very early in the process by a shadowy group of figures I've never seen. Then the engineers go to work designing all the parts with those specs in mind. Then, more engineers test that the vehicle meets requirements for those targets. Read between the lines, and you'll see that the published figures are not necessarily the actual physical limits, they are merely the limits that the vehicle was tested to. They don't actually test to failure. They don't keep adding weight till something breaks. They use the weights that were set out from the beginning, prove that it can do it, and then the design is done. The actual limits may very well be higher than the specifications, but again, they don't test to failure.
A good example of this is transmission cooling, which I can speak of with authority because that was my job. The transmission cooling system on Fords is designed to pull a GVW vehicle, with a maximum trailer weight trailer, up "Davis Dam". Davis Dam is something like a 10% grade, 10 mile pull. In 100+ degree heat. That's the test that the cooling system has to pass to be signed off. There's also Las Vegas Traffic testing. This is a test to make sure that when sitting stopped, in drive, in very high heat, with no airflow, that the system can still cool. This is the real reason for the plastic shrouds on the cooling system, and less so for a "ram air" effect. The shrouds prevent recirculation of hot air due to the fan.
Anyway, so you can see, the design limits are often established with testing that is much beyond anything that most of us would eve do. I live in Canada, it's not 100 degrees here, and I just don't have any hills like that. I have taken my fully loaded Focus wagon with a trailer up a 1 mile steep hill. I shift down to 3rd and take it up nice and easy, and don't worry about it.
Another example of this... the Focus Zetec engine is "rated" at 130hp. Mine currently makes about 240 with the help of a turbo, and the engine is otherwise stock. All the internals are fine, and were obviously underrated. I can race it around a race track for 30 minutes in hot weather making all the heat from a 240hp turbo application, with no overheating. The stock radiator is obviously much bigger than it needs to be.
This type of thing is prevalent in the industry. It's not like the aviation industry, where, if something exceeds requirements, it must be overdesigned, and thus overweight, and gets redesigned. That being said, lately that type of thing has happened due to cost. If something is overdesigned, and they can redesign it to save money, they will.
What am I getting at? I have never weighed a vehicle. I KNOW I've overloaded my Focus wagon on several occaisions. I also know that as long as you drive sensibly, it'll probably be fine. Maybe you'll need to replace the wheel bearings a little early. Maybe I should change the transmission fluid instead of going with Ford's "filled for life" plan.
I just try to keep things reasonable, and drive sensibly, and don't worry about it.
If my truck sits well and drives well with the load, and the OME suspension helps that, then I go with it.