thanks guys again.. Chase, very good info and right on the money as well...
My course of action is:
I'm pretty sure the rods aren't bent. My theory now is the oil exited by the blown injector which wasn't all the way strapped in due to the broken bolt.. Lucky for me! (I hope/think)... I was hoping to pull the engine today but ran out of time. I scored a builder engine for free (can't remember if I mentioned that. Pretty funny as my Toyota has about 1200 lbs of powerstroke in it as we speak, LOL... Photos below.. Assuming everything is fine I'll pull the head of the builder, send it in just in case (should be fine) and then replace. I think the engine itself has a lot of life left in it.
From there, if I do start running into engine issues I found two engines now, a builder for $1500 with about 150K miles as mentioned, and I also found a running 2WD powerstoke with a bad trans for around the same price, good shape at about 225K miles... I think I'd probably go with that one, start parting out my other two engines and turbo / injectors etc
And finally I started really reading about all the trans issues. There are plenty of builders solving the problems but two (really three) have it down to an art, John Wood in the San Diego area, and BTS in Arkansas. Both will also rebuild their trans with you right there in a day if you want... They are expensive though. Also I started looking for signs my truck had its trans replaced. I can't find any at all, so I actually think its the original trans... Instead of messing with torque converters and valve bodies etc, I'm basically going to wait for it to fail and/or come up with the money for an expensive professional rebuild by one of these guys (or possibly someone local) and then do it right, once... Again, the Navistar can run for so long (400k easily I think) that I'll just keep truckin and pretend I'll have the truck indefinitely..
So that's it in a nutshell

I also ran across the photos of a stock F250 I test drove earlier. It really looked pretty good stock height. So I'm pretty sure I'm going to lower this one back down to stock height as well... Better mileage as well
The engine (and the hell of a fork lift that I used to load it). I can't name names but the guy I discovered is one hell of a guy. I also talked extensively with a diesel heavy tech off my site 4btswaps.com who is a really high end mechanic, gave me really good adivce. Between the two guys I am a luck guy if you ask me..