I have read all of the pages trying to find any mention of a separator used between the two batteries. I was under the impression this is a fairly easy way to go and essentially the same thing as an isolator I am just curious if that is true. If not what are the differences and or strengths of each?
There are two common ways to "isolate" batteries. One with with a diode type isolator. The ones with the big heat sink that you can find at any auto parts store. These have an issue of dropping the voltage across the diodes, so your aux battery ends up a little short of a full charge.
Then there is a solenoid - such as described in this thread. Since the solenoid is just a big electromagnetically operated switch, all it does is tie the batteries together into one big battery when the engine is running so they both get charged up to the same voltage. The solenoid setup is often called a "split-charge relay", but it does isolate when the engine is off and many folks call them isolators.
Then there are fancy setups that attach a little computer to sense voltage and energize the solenoid. One waits until the voltage on the engine battery side rises a bit before it ties the batteries, another will tie them if it senses rising voltage on either side (in case you have a shore powered charger on the house battery side).
Basically I just want a full proof way to have a dual battery setup without ever being able to kill my main battery for starting the truck.
What is presented in this thread is what you need.
A normal alternator/voltage regulator setup is simple and stupid. It's also a crappy way to charge batteries. Not really very different from a 30 dollar bench top battery charger, other than it's capable of many more amps - if your battery will allow that many amps to flow (usually, it won't). If that's what you are using to charge your batteries, then there is no need to get fancy with the battery isolator.
(Personally I run a dumb solenoid in my truck, as described in this thread - but I'm just a lowly journeyman electrician who put in 24,000 hours in the trade before I moved on to another career (designing and building computer networks) - so what do I know?
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