The Allpro springs look amazing, but I don't want 3+ inches in back. I'd prefer 2ish, and have been leaning towards Deavers. Good to hear Icon recommended them, I've been meaning to call Icon to ask.
Yeah, I hear ya...I am running OME HD's, while I like the load capacity...waaay too much lift for me. My cheap solution is having 250# worth of sand bags in the bed, behind the axle, when it isn't loaded with gear. Not sure what better solution is...either a lowering shackle, spring under, or a whole new custom made spring pack...even considering linking the rear, and going with coil overs. And make it where I can adjust the ride height with different mounting positions of the coil over.
Can get a relatively stock look, with a linked rear, like on this Ranger. Do mini-bed cage, unlike the full one above...so you can have somewhat usable bed space.