3.73 is all that is available on the duramax. I highly recommend the 4.10 and 3500HD. I own a 2011 2500HD 6.0L (possibly one of the best GM blocks ever made) and my biggest regrets are going 3/4 ton and keeping the 3.73 (also I'd prefer a long-bed, but the truck isn't my overlander).
Differences?
The 3500HDs come with the same heavier duty rear axle as the diesels. (I believe the 4.10 3/4-tons come with it too). You can tell if you have the big harmonic balancer at the input into the diff. I don't have it on my 3/4-ton.
The extra capacity of the 3/4-ton is an overload spring. It doesn't even engage until a certain amount of weight is added to the bed. I cannot see how an unloaded 3500 will ride any worse than an unloaded 2500, but a loaded 3500 is going to be much better.
I'm a GM guy through and through, but there are a few gripes I have with over landing one. The front bumper is a snowplow, and it's tough to get nice looking aftermarket ones. No amount of lift is going to fix that approach angle, and MPG is going to necessarily suffer because of it. I've given up trying to off-road mine, it's basically a trailer hauler.
I'm not a fan of chevy IFS for off-roading, they have a reputation for breaking half-shafts and tie-rods. That said, my dad's H2 has a sweet front suspension, but even it needed heavy duty tie-rods. My 2011 has pretty beefy tie-rods, but I'd upgrade them anyway if I off-roaded it.
In the end, I would have done a couple of things differently:
1) If I wanted to stay under 9k towing, I would have got a Ram Power Wagon which keeps the solid axles, adds lockers, winch, and front disconnects and called it a day.
2) If I wanted to go above 9k towing, I would have gone 1-ton and looking into the duramax over the 6.0 (although the 4.11 on the 6.0 is a pretty formidable spec.)
At the end of the day, I probably would have gone Ram. Again, I love the chevy, but it's tough to argue that I could have got a Cummins 1-ton dually for the same price I spent on my 3/4-ton gassers. The Chevy/GMC premium is getting too high to ignore considering both Ford and Ram make decent trucks too. I wasn't getting nearly the discounts on the chevy that I was being offered on the Ford/Ram. Basically for the money it cost to get a 6.0 gasser I could get a Ford/Ram diesel, or if I wanted a Duramax, I was $10k+ higher than the other two brands.
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