Once again the age old gas vs. diesel debate. Here's my $.02 worth. I've owned gas and diesel, 3 Cummins powered 2500's and my current 6.4 gas Power Wagon. Let me be crystal clear, I love diesel's, I'm a truck guy. I have a CDL and over the years I've driven the big boy's. Detroit Diesels 6-71's 8v71's, 6v92's, Cummins 5.9, N-14, ISM, Caterpillar C-13, International DT466, Maxxforce9 and some others I can't remember. Again I love diesels, mostly older diesels though.
I'm currently in charge of a fleet of diesels and hand's down the most reliable ones are the older pre emission engines. The newer ones are total assaches between injectors, ECM's, and other bullcrap.
Todays modern diesel are extremely complicated works of engineering. The are not the simple diesel engine of 15 years ago. Emissions have crippled the reliability of the modern diesel engine. It started with introduction of the high pressure common rail injection, then came exhaust gas recirculation, then came diesel particulate filters, add urea injection and all the associated components and they just are not as reliable as they used to be.
I wish I never sold my last diesel powered truck. It was a 2004 5.9 Cummins with 305hp and 555tq. It pulled my fifth wheel camper just fine with those wimpy (by todays standard)power levels. I wish I didn't sell it because the same truck today in good conditions is selling for $20,000-25,000 dollars. They command top dollar today because they are more reliable than todays diesels and are much simpler to work on.
For what you listed as a truck requirement I would get the 3500srw with the 6.4 hemi. The only big difference between a 2500 and 3500 is the leaf vs. coil spring, and of course the trucks GVW. The gasser will be cheaper up front and in the long run. Like I said, I love diesels but since I sold my aforementioned Cummins I won't touch them now. Unless you tow heavy frequently they are not worth the money and headaches.