I have a 2005 LJ Rubicon that I use for my expedition vehicle. Since I live in ND and the only wheeling I ever do is when I am on vacation 1000+ miles from home, I also needed a true expedition vehicle with good road manors. I think the first thing to keep in mind is to keep it as low as possible. The more lift you have, the more unstable it becomes. Also with more lift, the more you screw up your suspension geometry the higher you go. Once you raise your LJs suspension more than 2" you really need to look at adjustable track bars and trac bar brackets to try to correct suspension geometry. Since you have a 4" lift now you probably have done this already. But I would recomend looking it over to make sure everything is tight and in good order.
How big of tires will you run? For your use, it sounds like 33s (or 285/75/16) would be about right. If that is the case I would recommend something along the lines of a 2"-3"" Spring lift plus a body lift. (If your looking at a bigger tire, I would recommend the same lift but put on a highline fender kit.) I have no personal experience with the OMEs but I think that is the 2" I would recommend due to the wide variety of spring rates avialable. For a 3" springs I would recommend the Savvy or the AEV. I would also recommend getting control arms with Johnny Joints (Currie or Savvy).
How heavy is your rig? Keep in mind how heavy your Jeep is. For a lighter LJ with little armor I would recommend the standard OME spring. If your heavier some of the progressive springs or other stiffer springs might serve you better.
My setup: The current setup I have on my LJ is BDS 2" springs with Rancho 9000XL adjustable shocks and a 1" Teraflex body lift and Cooper STTs in a 285/75/R16. For extra weight all I have is Jeeperman rock sliderz, undercover fab oil pan, and a BSRK rear bumper with no tire carrier. I opted recently for the GR8TOPs exogate tire carrier due to its lightweight, no additional noise, and being able to open with the rear gate. So overall, I would say my Jeep is relatively light for a build LJ. Having said that. Here are my impressions of my Jeep.
The BDS springs are plenty stiff for an LJ. I believe that sometime in the last couple of years BDS changed the spring rates on their rear springs. Ther are now nearly as stiff as the poplular ZJ/LJ setup from OME. So for the most part you can disregard those who say the rears are too soft. I have never bottomed out my rear springs even fully loaded. Infact, I sometimes feel they are too stiff.
The Rancho adjustable shocks have pros and cons. I have never noticed a fading problem that someone here mentioned. However, I do find that they are not matched very well to the BDS springs with light tires. When I had a light tire on my Jeep the shocks had to be set at #2-#3 to control the rebound of the springs. Which lead to a stiff ride. But now with the heavier 285s I tend to run them at #1. I know it sound backwards, but the springs are better matched to a heavier tire and the shocks require less rebound damping. With my Ranchos set at #1 I have a firmer than stock feel, but not too harsh. I haven't had my new 285 tires off road yet, but with my stock MTS and the BDS/Rancho combo I found that turning up the shocks to #3 or #4 really helped to control the side to side wobble, even fully loaded. Since I just put the spare tire on my carrier last weekend, I am playing with the Ranchos again to find the best setup. They feel much better with a heavier rig. However, although I like the adjustability of the Ranchos. I can't help but to feel that if I got the proper springs for my Jeeps weight and shocks that were properly matched to those springs, I wouldn't need to make adjustments.
So my final advice is to pay attention to the weight of your Jeep. This will have a big effect on which spring and shock combo you choose. Sorry if I'm rambling in coherently. I just wanted to write a few quick points while at work. I'll review things later to see if I can offer more clarity. In the meantime, can you tell us a little more about how big of tires you want to run and how much weight you will be carrying on your LJ. That would really help in knowing what would work best for you.