I can't say how everybody else does it. But I have everything which can be used with the ignition off, wired directly to the house/ auxiliary batteries. Stereo, Fridge, All Interior lights, inverter, ciggy plugs, air compressor, TV Laptop, H20 pump, Fans, ect...
I use a manual Boat Battery Switch. I have all the loads wires to the number 2 of this switch. Number 1 goes to the stock vehicle engine battery and harness. I can run the engine, start the engine off of either battery bank or both. It is not automatic, but I have only forgotten once, and 3 batteries still had enough.
My usual process is start the engine on number 1 battery, after 20 seconds switch to both, so alternator and solar panel charges both banks. When I stop the engine, I turn switch to 1. Engine computer, starter and door locks and power windows are still wired directly only to the Ignition Feed on the battery switch, but everything else only sees the auxillery batteries, unless I have the switch set to BOTH.
I try never to leave switch set to both without engine running, or strong sun hitting the Solar panel, but 345 A/h leaves me a lot of breathing room, I only go below 50% SOC on the house/ auxiliary batteries if I am trying to do so. And the chassis/ starting battery is always at or above 95%, unless I forget to isolate it and camp for many days without any strong sunlight.
I don't ever worry about needing a jumpstart, I worry about others asking me to move my campsite to jumpstart them. When that happens now I tell them to bring me their battery, and I'll charge it, or push their vehicle to mine. Or if they are really in a rush and cannot push their vehicle, I'll easily remove my chassis battery, and bring it/ send it over, knowing I could still start my vehicle and drive away if they were to steal it, or needed to Buy it, which has happened.
Another thing, I have all LED lighting. All my Lights turned on use only 2/3 the electricity of one incandescent Bulb in one fixture. I don't even consider interior lighting as a major load anymore. Having swiched to LED's earlier might have saved a relationship or 2 along the way.
"Dangnabit woman, turn off the GD lights when your not inside!!!"
With LEDs I couldn't care, and she/they could continue to be blissfully ignorant about the need to conserve anything. Well electrical.
"Are you using drinking water to wash your hair!!!!!!!!!!!"
Logic be danged, relationship over.