luthj
Engineer In Residence
Looking at the Blue Sea site, it appears that you cannot control the ML relay with a simple voltage present/absent circuit, but rather you need to give it pulses.
ML-RBS Remote Battery Switch with Manual Control - 12V DC 500A - Blue Sea Systems
500 Amp magnetic latching (bi-stable) switch provides high-amp switching under load, manually or from remote locations
www.bluesea.com
I am certain a simple on/off signal is all that's required.