I spent some time worrying about the road manners before lifting the AWD GMC due to it's excellent handling and ride. The front lift keys and stock shocks with spacers work just fine, I agree with other people that the front ride is actually better on bumpy roads, I have felt no harshness typical of cranked torsion bars. The stock rear springs are Very soft and made to work in tandem with the progressive bumpstop, when a lift block is used the spring now bends further into negative arch "not good" until it finds the bumpstop, unless you lower the bumpstop the same amount as the block. If you put longer shocks on they might stop the spring before the bumstops do when they hit their collapsed height "not good". I choose a set of rear springs that give 3" lift and offer much more wheel travel combined with better weight control, the rear Bilsteins seem well matched. The van still rides like a half ton and the composure on really poor roads at speed is even better than stock.
I have not towed with the van yet but intend to flat tow my Jeep LJ, it was ordered with the rare 3:73 gear. I would not recommend much tongue weight though, you just don't have the extra GVWR it's got little GM 10 bolt axle bearings.
Soft sand should not be an issue, momentum and stopping on little down grades is more important than 4 high vs AWD.....In the past I mostly used 4 low in the sand to keep auto trans temps down not because it worked better, I am going to put a factory trans cooler from a 3/4 - 1 ton GM van on the AWD GMC and not worry about sand.......