A charge controller set to the correct voltage profile will not cook batteries.I believe you are likely to cook batteries if you have any high amp charge source without a high draw (mismatched) but I am an amateur and not an Electrical Engineer. I have found that my 200w solar and Victron MPPT does a decent job of limiting power when not needed, some days only producing a few dozen watt-hours and other days producing a kWh or more, seemingly dependent more on driving than sun. However, I still top off water 3-4x per year, but I also live in a desert where 115+ F ambient temperatures are common, and my battery is an under hood starter. I would not buy a “sealed” battery. I also average 3.5 years life, which seems pretty typical around here, but I buy cheap batteries.
I’ve matched the Jeep and Trailer battery. When the Jeep battery fails, I move the trailer battery up, and put the new one in the trailer.
A charge controller set to the correct voltage profile will not cook batteries.
While using the same battery in the trailer and as a starter might seem like a good idea, you have two opposite battery needs, starter and deep cycle. No matter what the salesman says there is no lead acid battery that does both. Use the right battery for the intended use and it will last far longer.
It is not the charging that will damage the trailer battery (although you will have to address the voltage drop)What if they're both being charged together?
When my engine is running both batteries can be charged by the alternator, which is setup to charge a starter battery. But they will also both be charged by the solar. If I shut off the ignition on a sunny day both batteries will contine to be linked and hence charged by the solar.
I'm thinking of sticking with two starter batteries (identical ones this time too) so that they will be charged in the same way as each other.
Does that make sense for someone that doesnt have a DC-DC charger for battery seperation?
Matching your batteries will do nothing to extend their life. You only match batteries when they are part of the same bank. You have a starter battery and a house battery. Your house battery should be deep cycle for long life, a starter battery will not stand up to long slow deep discharges as well as a deep cycle.