I've run into an issue with my starting battery (Diehard Platinum marine AGM) not getting a full charge and not sure why.
You're assuming it's not getting a full charge. It might be getting a full charge, but not holding it for long. That would be a dodgy battery.
Starting only draws the battery down like 1/5 of one amp*hour...almost nothing. Put a multi-meter on the battery and check its voltage with the engine running at high idle and the isolator solenoid off (batteries isolated). If the engine battery does nothing but start the truck, you should see it come up to over 14v in well under a minute.
Let it run 10 minutes, then shut it down and watch the voltage fall. It shouldn't fall below 12.8v, but if it's not getting a full charge, it might fall as low as 12.5v, or even 12.3v.
But at some point, it should stop falling and just sit there. If it keeps creeping down, then either the battery is bad and not holding a charge, or you've got some sort of phantom load drawing it down.
I've been unable to start on a few occasions. I did not have any issues prior to the solenoid to the 2nd battery, although this could simply be coincidence. Hoping a guru can chime in.
My 2nd battery is connected via the Cole Hersee 24106 and 20ft of 4g cable to my slide camper. The battery is a larger 215AH AGM battery.
It also has 350ish watts of solar.
I usually let the starting battery get 10-20 minutes alone before I turn the solenoid on and for the most part the Tundra will start just fine.
I've run dumb solenoids (split-charge relay) for decades. I don't time delay, they get tied as soon as I turn the key. I also run my aux battery fully dead all the time.
NEVER had a problem with it affecting the starting battery - unless the starting battery is already dodgy.
On one 50 mile drive, my truck failed to start upon arriving the location. It wouldn't start with the solenoid connected (worth a shot) So I simply left the solenoid connected, let the solar charge for 15min, then I was able to start.
I've done the same thing, but with a generator and battery charger instead of solar. Have done it a few times when I left the headlights on overnight, and a few times when the starting battery went bad.
It's nice to have a backup source of power.