Here's the deal. ANY vehicle that has "shift-on-the-fly" four-wheel-drive MUST keep the entire 4WD system engaged at ALL times. Doesn't matter if it's a 72 Blazer or a 2001 Suburban. If I want to shift from 2WD into 4WD at 30mph my front drive shaft and front axles MUST be spinning at 30mph to engage. "Part-time 4x4" on your 3500 means that the front half of the 4WD system is not being driven by the transfer case. It is however still connected to the transfer case and is being "dragged" up to speed by the front wheels/axles/diff/driveshaft. So 30K on a 4WD truck essentially is 30K IN 4WD.
No, a SOTF vehicle must have the front driveline at vehicle speed before it starts transmitting torque thru it. Doesn't mean it needs to be up to speed ALL the time, just that in needs to be BROUGHT up to speed before torque flow happens.
The way GM used to accomplish this was via a rather complicated setup. First when you shift the thing into 4x4 an electromagnetic clutch spins up the gears and chain inside the t-case and syncs their speed to the rear output shaft before the fork slides and couples them mechanically, this also brings the front ring and pinion up to road speed. Then some trucks (halfton and smaller IIRC) had a vacuum signal sent to a servo motor up front to pull on a cable to engage the center axle disconnect (CAD) mechanism and lock the passenger side axle shaft (well, the intermediate shaft inside the axle housing) to the stub shaft coming out of the differential, while larger trucks IIRC used an electric actuator for the CAD. So what happens in 2wd is that yes your wheels are spinning the axle shafts, but the passenger-side shaft only spins the intermediate shaft which is just sitting there NOT connected to the differential, the driver-side axle shaft is in fact spinning its respective gear inside the diff but because the other side (stub shaft for the CAD mechanism) is free to do as it pleases it ends up spinning at the same speed as the driver-side gear but in the opposite direction. Overall the differential's body, and respectively the ring, pinion, and front driveshaft, all remain still and thus incurs no wear.
The exception to that were AWD vehicles - those had a special transfer case, the front axle didn't have the CAD mechanism, and the intermediate shaft was longer and now connected the passenger-side axle shaft to the diff itself. Those trucks do in fact turn the front shaft at full speed all the time regardless of how much actual torque flows thru it, and thus are subjected to the wears you describe.
AWD is obviously not part-time, however part-time can and often is shift-on-the-fly. Don't think I've ever seen an older AWD 3/4-ton, but most of the part-timers were SOTF-capable...
What I'm getting at is that one needs to know what kind of SOTF system their vehicle has, and if it has a CAD and the front driveline is still turning full speed even when in 2wd mode then that would be an indication of a problem with the CAD.