TRIP OF LIFETIME, DOUSED BY ATTITUDE

dwh

Tail-End Charlie
My views are simple - I don't smoke weed, almost never drink and wont accept a prescription for any meds without studying the literature and PDR for myself.


And after 30 years in law enforcement, I don't automatically assume the OP is some child who needs to be protected from tasteless jokes.
 
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calicamper

Expedition Leader
Sounds like you still need to slow down. Park it some place for 5 days. Get a good book and do some fun exploring.
 

mkitchen

Explorer
Wow, I did not expect the great of a response

First off, I am not offended by the suggestion that smoking some pot would help. Who knows, it probably would but I tend to solve my issues in other ways. That goes for all intoxicants too, though I do enjoy a nice craft beer on occasion. Another point is that I struggled over whether to write up this trip at all and if so, should even include the attitude issue. I decided to write it as I have because I thought some others might have the same struggles and possibly my ramblings may be of some help to them. Heck, i am married, so obviously I don't get offended too easily eh? I am very impressed with the replies that I have received and though I am not responding to each post, I do thank all of your for your thoughts and observations. Being a bear of very little brain, I have not figured out how to post a bunch of quotes in one reply and be able to answer each quote. So. on with the trip.

So leaving camp at Erickson Creek, we headed to Marble CO. Mo has been there before and wanted me to see it. Here is a small town huddled in a very snug valley. I can only imagine how this valley is in winter. But in the summer, you couldn't ask for a nicer place to enjoy the season. Below is my favorite picture of the town and could possibly be part of the reason that I liked it so much.

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A shot of the lake at the edge of town. There is also a trail that leads from the lake to Crested Butte but we did not get to travel it since we were trying to keep to a schedule that would get us to Kelowna BC on a certain day.
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Coke ovens just outside of Marble.
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While in camp, prior to Marble, I had a couple of mishaps that once again set me off. The first was my shower set up broke. We have a Zodi Extreme and it has worked for years without issue or complaint. This trip the pickup tube inside the tank developed a small crack that allowed air to be pulled up instead of the stream of water needed. I took it apart, tried to fix it and failed to get it right. the other calamity was my coffee percolator broke. Again I attempted to repair this absolutely necessary appliance for a happy camp, without success. So no shower, no coffee and Mo catching hell from me because I want to bag it all and just go home. {Side note - Once home, I fixed both the shower and the percolator without issue with tools no different than what I had with me on the trip.} Just another example of a really bad attitude.

Continuing on north, we were again in Utah and stayed over night in Vernal. The next morning we headed for Wyoming and the Flaming Gorge Nat. Rec. Area. I was told by a local in Vernal that the Gorge is just as spectacular as the Grand Canyon. I did not find that the Gorge is quite that striking but it is worth seeing. I noticed that there is a dirt road that follows along the east side of the Gorge and offers some secluded spots to take in the sights.

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Just maybe it would be more impressive if we got closer. In fact, lets go down to the side of the lake and have a bite of lunch. What a perfect spot. A good 30 miles from a paved road and further yet to a population base (i.e. town). So we really should enjoy the solitude. So here's a shot of our lunch spot.

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Unlike in Arizona, when the top looks dry, that which is below may not be so dry. Here's the quandary; if a broken percolator is enough to again bemoan the fact that we should be going home, how is being stuck by yourself, away from any phone service, CB contact, trees to hook a winch to and a pull pal that was sitting in my garage in AZ, going to affect my overly emotional state? I loved it! I don't know why but the fact that we were stuck and had to get ourselves out was a great challenge and we did it. It took a couple of hours but we did it and had fun with the burden of it all. If nothing else, I could have buried my spare and winched from that but that takes a lot of digging to get a spare tire buried deep enough to winch a vehicle out. That is a very last resort and probably would have given me another heart attack. Finally using my head for something other than a hat rack, we were able to run a long line to a bunch of Salt Cedars and pull the truck out by itself. I then hooked the winch to the trailer and winched it out to dry ground. This was done by me inserting the Hi-Lift mast into the rear receiver of the trailer and then sitting on the mast. This took enough weight off the front so that when Mo ran the winch, the front stayed up. Hey, sometimes goofy works.

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Well after getting out of that mess, I was looking for more dirt. Maybe it was just all this pavement that was getting me down. I found a dirt track that went north from Kemmerer WY, north to Alpine WY. That looked liked a fun trail. It was a good trail and we had a great time on it and we were back in the trees which is always a good thing. I recommend this route to anyone wishing to see a nice piece of Wyoming. In fact we did see another overlander and three fellows on BMW adventure bikes.

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Camp for the night was a nice meadow just a couple hundred yards from the road. I don't know how high we were but it had to be quite high as the dog water was frozen in the morning. A quick breakfast and we continued north.

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So from there we had an uneventful trip through Montana, Idaho and Eastern Washington. We crossed into Canada at Laurier and headed to our friends home in West Kelowna. I still can't believe how much water is up in this country. Every road seems to follow a river. If you follow a river or creek in Arizona, it usually means you are travelling in the creek/river bed as there is no water in it. Just don't get caught in it in monsoon time as flash floods can be a bit of a mess.

In the four days we were in BC it rained. I guess you can't have rivers everywhere and not have rain. With my cheery perspective, I told Mo that I had enough and I was heading south. She finally got tired of my sniveling and we headed towards home. We spent some time visiting some friends who live across from Seattle, but on the peninsula. A bit gloomy for me but we did get to see Mt Rainier which I hear is not that often as it is usually clouded over.

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From our friends home we traveled around the Olympic Peninsula, heading for the Olympic park. On our way we stopped for lunch at this little beach that looked across the Straight of Juan de Fuca to Vancouver Island.

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While there, we met a couple in an FJ Cruiser. They came over and introduced themselves and explained that they too had an AT Horizon trailer and that they have been travelling in it since March. They were at the Overland Expo, as were we, and now we meet them at the very tip of the states. Wow. Here is a couple our age who have been traveling as we have but for over four months and planned to continue till November. That really put me to shame. I was ready at that point to head back north and start my route to Alaska again, instead we continued to the Olympic park and from there to Portland to see family. The trip was pretty uneventful from there and we did finally get back home.

We spent a month in our travels where we had planned on being out for two plus months. I have learned a lot since this trip and have had some very nice travels since and look forward to more. I now look at this trip as a lesson and will plan more and have a more distinct itinerary. Not as free spirited as I wanted to believe but more realistic for me. I do believe that I can still make a longer trip and in fact I am now working on plans for a ride to Dawson and the Arctic Circle next June. We will be traveling on Kawasaki KLR dual sport bikes. So hopefully I will still make it up to the great white north. Only this time with a better outlook and perspective. Again thanks to all that have posted. Your comments have done a lot to make me feel that I am not the loser that I felt I had become.
Mikey
 
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1leglance

2007 Expedition Trophy Champion, Overland Certifie
Absolutely great write up Mikey....more than anything thanks for taking us inside your head for the mental side of things.
I am 47 and really want to semi-retire soon with some long trips and short trips spread through the year. Your report gives me some things to think about and watch the attitude side of it all.

Please keep the reports coming as you travel and please keep letting us know what is cooking under the hat :)
 

maktruk

Observer
Who can therefore be expected to be fully aware that weed A) is legal and B) does less harm than alcohol.



(I wouldn't have said anything, but seeing people jumping on the guy who suggested weed, while letting the Xanax suggestion pass is so vile it makes me want to puke.)
With ya there. Big pharma can choke.
 

4x4x4doors

Explorer
Wow. Just wow.
I think all of us have some idealized view of retirement and maybe even the Grand Trip of a Lifetime. The degree to which the reality varies can really do some weird things to your head.
For me, it was making the adjustment to not being schedule-driven. Our first post-retirement trip together was to Alaska. I had made a cross-country run to Nevada solo to meet up with some folks (from here on ExPo) in the first year.
We postponed the trip to Alaska until the second summer and I think it was better then because we had done some other things that had been put off due to the requirement to show up for that paycheck so "the list" of things undone at home was small. We also worked really hard that trip to SLOW DOWN. We barrelled through familiar territory and then picked a couple of stops just because someone somewhere had mentioned it. That helped a lot to subtly adjust the attitude.
Instead of heading to Alaska, we were seeing things we'd never seen before and would turn around when we got to Alaska. It really is a subtle difference but helped. Another way to say it is the ubiquitous "it's the journey."
We made a point of breaking rules we'd previously used. For example, we stopped when we found a good spot or when we were tired instead of trying to get to a certain point before stopping. We didn't push for a set number of miles in a day. We stopped if it looked interesting (wife refers to this as chasing butterflies) and followed the curious sign.
The dogs will help the OP maintain a stopping schedule. For us, it seems somewhere around 2 hours is time to get out and walk around the truck, go read the marker sign, or something.
We (this counts as the royal we) tend to spend a lot of time weighing the financial implications of retiring but pay too little attention to the psychological implications. Some of us need the routine.
Wife and I now get 8 hours sleep almost every night. More than 6 was a rarity while working. I seldom see the sun come up any more and that's fine with me. But I can if I want to.
 

rossvtaylor

Adventurer
30 years, wow! Good for you. I was in the Phoenix metro area, 5 years with Maricopa County SO (way, pre-Joe!) and the remainder with Phoenix PD. But, I'm now in Flagstaff and well into a second career in something completely different. But, I get the sudden change and how that can impact you. Going from 50mph to zero can be a tough transition... Just reading your posts here, in the past few days, it's clear you're already adjusting. Good for you, sir. I love seeing how you met and overcame the stuck-to-the-axles challenge.

Best wishes to you!
 

maktruk

Observer
Getting stuck can be the worst thing to happen at the time, and the best thing that could have happened later on. I met a very good friend because I was stuck one day. While I may have met him later through various shared acquaintances, having met that day, in that instance, made it kind of special for both of us.
 

unkamonkey

Explorer
It seems a lot of us have an opinion about retirement and staying on your path as you go on. I suppose we all have our own path through life. My neighbors, some friends and my brother and sister in law have all retired in the last few years and as the joke goes they don't know how they got everything done when they had a job.

I hope you found your smile.
 

Martinjmpr

Wiffleball Batter
Thanks for the writeup. I think I can understand a little of the situation you found yourself in. FWIW I was in the Army for 23 years and retired in '05 (at the age of 44) to start a new career behind a computer screen.
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Law enforcement, like the military, is one of those careers where you spend a lot of time figuratively (or in some cases, literally) going 100 miles an hour, so when you suddenly stop and sit down, it can be a shock to your system. There is also the fact that, consciously or not, you build up expectations and fantasies of how it will be and when life doesn't conform to our expectations (as is often the case) I think it's normal to get frustrated.
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Probably better to "ease" into retirement than to jump right into a long trip like that. I think you made the right call turning back when you did. Now you have another pocket full of lessons learned and ideas of what to do in the future (you know, like bring the pull pal! :p )
 

1Louder

Explorer
I'm 47 as well and have never saved trips for when I am retired. Married with no kids has made that easier. My thought process is I can always go back and who knows what condition I will be in later in life. I have traveled to Tierra Del Fuego by plane and hope to do so by vehicle some day. Maybe go out with a small group on a longer trip and see if that modifies your mood. I'm sure you will give it a go again and nothing wrong with admitting "failure" although that is a bit strong. You made it all the way up to Canada.
 

Clutch

<---Pass
A sudden change in lifestyle is probably more to blame than the trip itself. Took us 10 years to finally move to where we wanted to be...lotsa hard work and sacrifice. I did go through a little bit of funk when we first got here....man, that first year was a tough one. End of the second year here now....finally feeling settled and comfortable.

Wouldn't beat yourself up too bad, it will take some to adjust.
 

BobbyJones

Observer
“The word adventure has gotten overused. For me, when everything goes wrong – that's when adventure starts”
-Yvon Chouinard.


Unlike in Arizona, when the top looks dry, that which is below may not be so dry. Here's the quandary; if a broken percolator is enough to again bemoan the fact that we should be going home, how is being stuck by yourself, away from any phone service, CB contact, trees to hook a winch to and a pull pal that was sitting in my garage in AZ, going to affect my overly emotional state? I loved it! I don't know why but the fact that we were stuck and had to get ourselves out was a great challenge and we did it. It took a couple of hours but we did it and had fun with the burden of it all. If nothing else, I could have buried my spare and winched from that but that takes a lot of digging to get a spare tire buried deep enough to winch a vehicle out. That is a very last resort and probably would have given me another heart attack. Finally using my head for something other than a hat rack, we were able to run a long line to a bunch of Salt Cedars and pull the truck out by itself. I then hooked the winch to the trailer and winched it out to dry ground. This was done by me inserting the Hi-Lift mast into the rear receiver of the trailer and then sitting on the mast. This took enough weight off the front so that when Mo ran the winch, the front stayed up. Hey, sometimes goofy works.

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