Humanness Check In (#1 of 3)!
It has been a long time since I have done a humanness check in (HCI), so this is going to be a LONG one. Grab a beer, cocktail, cup of coffee, or run for the hills
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Each time the thought of posting a HCI to the build thread comes up, I always have some reason and/or excuse as to why it’s not that important, it doesn’t matter, I am too busy, etc. These are all just defenses/justifications for me to avoid being vulnerable and share with everyone what has been happening with me on the inside (when I’m not running like a well-oiled machine).
Currently I am in a state of: head down, nose to the grind and I just have to get this monster of a job they call tabbing done. I have found somewhat of a rhythm again on the build, but I am also a bit burnt out and have had to push myself at times to keep working these long days, 12-14 hours on average. Sometimes I am just flat, kind of apathetic, and it is hard to muster up any energy, or reason, to work longer than 12 hours in a day. I basically go through waves each week. Monday I’m usually good, but by Saturday and definitely by Sunday I become a bit fussy and/or apathetic.
I don’t really have days off; I have time off. Basically, if I’m not at the shop working on the build, I am sleeping, grocery shopping, doing laundry, cleaning the bathroom, trying to meal prep for the week or posting to the thread. And sad to say, my “time off” is usually doing one of the above mentioned items, which isn’t really time off, they are just prepping for the build/work, or meeting basic needs.
Why don’t I just take time off? That is a complicated answer that I will try and briefly summarize.
I already explored most of Boise/Idaho, in the beginning of our trip, when we were in the campervan. We saw and did all of the things we/I wanted to do in the state. I already knew Boise/Idaho was a place I would not consider living, I only moved here specifically for the build and that was supposed to be for 6 months max. I also moved to Boise 3-4 months prior to the build to find a shop, spend time with the friends I am living with, explore the city, date, etc. I was surprised at how small Boise was in all manners of speaking, especially related to dating. To keep it simple, Boise/Idaho is not for me, so there is a push to get out of here as soon as possible. Also, if I take a day or weekend off, I would want to spend it outside of Idaho.
- Note: Please know that I am not bagging on Idaho or opening a dialogue or debate about whether Boise/Idaho is a great place to live. Idaho is a beautiful state and there are great people who live here, it’s just simply not for me.
I also never planned on building an expedition vehicle full time for 1-1.5 years, so this is becoming a substantial (mental, emotional, physical, relational, financial) commitment and time period out of my life. The original build was supposed to take 4-6 months to complete. The 2 year international trip (May of 2020 to June of 2022) was the plan/goal, not the expedition build. When I also consider the time period of the originally planned build/trip, to what the eventual build/trip will be, it becomes even a larger pill to swallow. By the time I finish the build (June/July of 2023) and return from the two-year trip (2025) this whole trip/project/whirlwind, from start to finish, will have been over FIVE years out of my life. This is another reason why everything in my psyche and body says “get this F(insert smiley face)KING build done and start traveling, or you are going to lose your F(insert smiley face)KING mind”.
There are also the financial aspects to consider. Remember, I’m not working right now, so no funds are coming in. When you budget and plan for a 6 month build and 2 years of traveling, and everything gets pushed out, you risk tapping into actual travel/trip funds to pay for extended living and build expenses. If this were to happen, and the actual trip were to become something less than, compromised because of finances, then all of this would definitely not be worth it??. This is another strong motivator to say, “screw days off, I have to get this build done and start traveling so I don’t jeopardize the actual trip.”
Considering all of the factors noted above: The trip will also be a 2 year vacation where I get to do anything my heart desires (anything I can dream up) and in some of the coolest and most beautiful places in the world. So, why would I take a day or weekend off now, which basically means trading a day off now in Boise/the U.S. for a day on the trip. Yes, it has literally become that simple of an equation in my mind and an actual reality given my situation.
You can see some of the pressures at play to just keep working at all cost. Yes, a human is going to start falling apart if they are working 85-100 hours every week for 1.5 years without a day off??. This is exactly what I am doing and I know it is not healthy and not how I want to live my life long term. I am in a state of managing right now. Working this much day in and day out creates distress and I am having to manage this distress. It’s not about thriving, balance, or living my best life right now, it’s about getting through the project so I can start traveling.