Ok, I spent a week banging my head against some ideas that I got from the forum, from you guys and from TTORA. I think "everyone else" got it right, afterall, and the DR coilovers and rear shocks are the best bet. My truck needs to retain its mild road manners, as it is my everyday transportation. Extreme lifts and extensive re-engineering of the suspension are not what I'm after. My plan is to:
- Get the DR coilovers and rear shocks now. Yes, the rears, too, as the rear of the truck needs some stablization. A great improvement could be had with a new leaf pack but I'm not interested in lifting the truck or sacrificing load carrying capacity. Good thing about the DR system is it's usable at 0-2.5" over stock, so I won't blow out the rear shocks running at stock height for now.
- Install an ARB bumper. Coilovers will be set to maintain stock height for now. Finally mount those nice Hellla Rallye 4000s I got awhile back.
- New tires come winter, 265-75-16, which is about 1" taller overall than stock. My current tires will easily last the rest of summer, but I will need new rubber before all those ski trips to Lake Tahoe this winter. UncleChris (a smart guy and generally reliable source of Tacoma wisdom

) runs Revos in this size and loves them, and they fit my "better than stock, but not too extreme for everyday use" criteria.