Hey Dennis, I forget the lift size you're running on your LJ Rubi, but I'd try to keep it similar if you're towing the trailer off-road. I vote to run your new receiver tube through the crossmembers and channel it, or make it part of your frame for strength reasons. There is some definite validity to the post above that if your welding is poor, you will weaken it, but this is your main tow point and your main beam that you will be pulling from. Essentially your entire trailer will be centered off this beam. I'd center it in the crossmembers and burn it in good and make it part of the frame itself, then be happy knowing it won't come apart later down the road. Towing off-road puts HUGE strain and stress on trailers in comparison to regular over-the-road use and I don't think that just running it under the center of the trailer and running 2.5" beads across the top would be enough with a loaded trailer and you'd eventually find stress fractures over time and find it separate down the road leading to failure. I could be wrong, but I would think that making it part of your frame and welding on at least 3 sides of the crossmembers as it goes down the center would make it much stronger and much less likely to fail in an off-road environment. Of course, I'm a bit biased too, here's how I did mine-I'm not sure how to link direct to the post, but mid way down the page on post #22 you can see the general idea of my build:
http://www.expeditionportal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=30224&page=3
Regarding the SOA-as you'll have it apart for the upgrade, might as well do it now. You'll avoid tearing it down again later and a little more room in the fenders won't hurt anything with 33's, you'll just be able to swap to 35's later when you wear out this rubber.
Also, just a word of advice regarding the receiver tube-when you buy the steel, be sure to test-fit before you buy it and find it won't fit at home. My main beam receiver tube is actual true "receiver tube" which measures 2 1/2" outside, true 2" inside diameter, 1/4" wall SEAMLESS. None of my regular receiver hitch stingers fit-my 2" ball for my regular 5x10 trailer that I tow behind my Jeep all the time, etc. It fits very sloppy in my Jeeperman rear swingout to the point that I've been meaning to weld on a few beads then grind them down as there's roughly 1/16" slop on all sides of the Jeeperman receiver and makes a heck of a racket and a pain while towing. Anyway, it won't fit in my true receiver tube. The ONLY stinger that fits is my new Lock-N-Roll hitch setup. It slips right in and is a TIGHT fit the way it should be. It measures 2" OD, while the inside of the receiver measures 2" ID. I'd literally have to shave the paint off the others to fit. Point being, I'd hate for you to buy 4.5' or whatever of your 2 1/2" tube, get it home then find it doesn't fit after you weld it in, then try to slip it through and find it won't go. Make sure it slips at the steel yard before you haul it home.
Best of Luck,
Mike