Training & Education
Lots of good points in this thread.
Allow me to expand on Fergie's earlier post about getting trained. Simply stated, if you do not seek proper training, you are putting yourself, your family, and your neighbors at risk if you choose to own a firearm. Sure your [Dad / Uncle / Whatever] taught you how to line up sights and blow up soda cans with the ol' .45, but that doesn't really cut it.
You wouldn't believe the kind of scary BS I've seen at local firearm ranges and the even scarier stuff out on public land. By the same token, if some people's knowledge of firearms and their use is so weak, imagine what their understanding of self defense laws must be like! A basic defensive pistol (or shotgun, or tactical rifle) class is
essential to gun ownership. The "plinking" mentality is fun - but don't mistake it for being any more than that.
There are tons of schools out there with reputable instructors who will both cover the physical side of your confrontation as well as the legal side (
at least as important).
Here are a few direct links:
Tactical Response
Lethal Force Institute
LMS Defense
Gunsite Academy
Suarez International
International Tactical Training Seminars
Here's a list of over 200 others here.
Most of these companies conduct training over a wide area or even internationally. Many will even be willing to come to your town and conduct a private class if you can arrange a class of ten or more people. It's up to you to do some research on the school/instructor you're considering - just like anything else, there's both gold and fool's gold out there.
Another important point in this regard - just as you don't run the same 4x trail over and over again, don't go to the same school over and over again. Seek to gain a different perspective and complimentary skills by trying more than one.
Further, if you learn how to make holes in other people, you should learn how to patch them up, too, otherwise, you have to ask yourself if the whole "gun thing" is really about being "manly" and not about being capable. An instructor of mine once said that you're much more likely to be a hero by using first-responder skills than you ever will be by using your shooting prowess.
Take (or re-take) a good first aid class (including CPR cert) at your earliest opportunity.
Finally, on the subject of fear - pick up Gavin de Becker's
The Gift of Fear: and other survival signals that protect us from violence. It could use a thread all its own, but suffice it to say that after finishing the book, I immediately bought copies for family, friends, and business partners. The bit on the back begins with, "True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference." You need this book.
Signing off with my favorite movie quote:
"There's no such thing as 'tough.' There's 'trained' and 'un-trained' - which are you?" - Man on Fire
-N